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Ways to reduce the guest list.


Obviously on your big day you want your friends and family there with you but the cost can be prohibitive, and there are lots of people you really would not miss.  For example the mother-in-law to be who, while not contributing anything to the cost, insists on inviting loads of her friends (many of whom her son has never even met) simply because she went to their children's weddings.

The easiest way to reduce the guest list is to get married in the week.  Give people lots of notice and those who really want to be there won't mind giving up a day's holiday but second cousins and various hangers-on won't come!

Consider not using 'and partner' on invitations.  Obviously if someone has a regular partner you know bu name then they must be invited but if you have a friend who changes partner as often as they change their socks, you won't want to be paying for someone they met in the pub last week.  Also singletons find these words depressing and they will simply trawl through acquaintances and even work colleagues to find someone.  There are very few peple who don't know other people at a wedding, so careful table planning can overcome any 'lone people' problems and also wedding are a wonderful opportunity for a bit of match-making!

Are you going to invite children?  Some people could not even consider getting married without their nieces and nephews but if lots of your friends have children it can certainly run up the bill.  And lots of parents will welcome a day out without the kids.

If you have a big family consider a time limit.  If you haven't seen someone for say, five years, don't bother inviting them.  This obviously does not apply if they live in Australia and are prepared to pay the air fare to come!

Beware of 'filling'.  This is amazingly common and happens when the families are splitting the costs equally but one side has much  more family than the other.  Because costs are being split then each side gets an equal number of guests, but the second family end up inviting neighbours and acquaintances just to fill their places so it will be fair!  If this is likely to be the case, address the problem early and split more on a per guest basis.  Good luck with that!

Or you could deliberately choose a small venue, and use that as an excuse saying 'Oh we absolutely fell in love with Suchaplace Arms, but unfortunately it only holds 20 people'.